The BDSM necklace, choker, or choker can be as much for style and elegance, as a true symbol of your relationship with your Dominant.
Your BDSM experience is personal for you and your partners. Reality is not necessarily meant to be a 50 shades of grey scene,
It is meant to be what you make of it, and there are no strict rules about what you can do with your fantasies or how you should structure your relationships. But there is one element of BDSM that even the youngest ones have seen, heard or been asked about: BDSM necklaces.
For some, a necklace is a sign of devotion, servitude, commitment, and support. For others, it is something to use when you become intimate with a partner.
Why are necklaces so important to so many people in the BDSM community? As with all fetish toys, it depends on the people who use it.
The BDSM necklace as a symbol
Although BDSM necklaces have practical uses, for many fetishists, they are the symbol of something deeper and bigger than a leather strap, a sextoy, a BDSM harness, a swift, a belt dildo or a metal chain. What they mean depends on who wears them and the relationship they have with their dominant.
Dominance and submission: For many kinksters, especially those in a D/s relationship, a necklace symbolizes their bond, the notion of bondage is important.
Some consider the necklace worn by a submissive person to be sacred, even more than a wedding ring or a simple Valentine's Day gift. Giving a submissive a necklace to wear outside of naughty games is seen as a signal that the relationship is a long-term commitment to each other.
Erotic games : Because a person can have and wear several types of collars BDSM ( with padlock, with hook, leather collar, leatherette, stainless steel, rivets, etc.. )
Some necklaces mean that the game of bondage is about to begin and others mean that it is time to punish his play partners. The submissive or the slave, may need to follow a specific ritual before the collar is placed around his neck.
Some kneel down, others perform a series of tasks and some do nothing special except put it on. But once the necklace is put on, both partners know that a BDSM session has begun.
Ownership: Not all fetish couples consider "ownership" part of their power exchange, but for those who do, a necklace is a powerful symbol for both partners.
In many cases, it is a necklace that is worn permanently and can even be locked. Collars with padlocks or snap hooks are nice options, but a chain and leash are equally effective and used by many kinksters.
These chokers are not removed for any reason (except in case of medical necessity) and the dominant partner (or dominatrix) usually keeps the key.
Practical uses of BDSM collars
So much meaning and symbolism that can be infused in BDSM collars for a bondage lover. They are also a practical toy when one is ready to submit. Play collars often include O or D rings to facilitate bondage and sexual practices. Once you have this type of collar, you have even more possibilities of power and control in your BDSM session. Here are some ideas:
- Hang the sub on the spanking bench, the cross of Saint Andrew or any other piece of equipment to keep them in place in your dungeon or in the bedroom.
- Attach a leash to the collar and walk or crawl the submissive around the room like a dog or bitch.
- Impose a (BDSM) and insert a (anal)(anal plug) or (dildo)(dildo) before grasping the ring and pulling the submissive to either side. You will certainly get his full attention when you do this in a sensual or sadistic way.
- Tie his wrists with BDSM handcuffs, bracelets or other bondage straps, to further limit his mobility while you hold him and drag him by the leash.
- These are just a few uses. With the right BDSM collar, you are limited only by your imagination and your play partner's.
Even people who are not interested in bondage and the symbolic meaning of the collars can appreciate its practical use.
In this sense, BDSM collars are tools like the whip, the whip, the whip, the faggot, the pliers, the headband, the feather duster and other equipment and sextoys.
As for all BDSM toys, you don't have to buy the most expensive ones, especially if you choose to buy a Bondage Kit. But in order to have a collar that can resist to your brutal level of play, it is important to consider the quality of the BDSM choker you are going to buy and therefore to take one by one.
People who participate and love BDSM are not a monolithic block. All desires, all activities and all perversions exist and this includes the importance of submission necklaces.
Many people use necklaces at least during a BDSM session while others believe in their symbolism and appreciate it in their power exchange relationships on a daily basis.
Like other parts of BDSM, the BDSM chokers are not more important than you would like them to be. Use them as a sign of commitment, add them to your next session, or skip them altogether if you're not interested.
But if you think the necklaces mean something important, talk to your partner and find some common ground between you. As with everything else, even necklaces require consent, and letting go.
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